It can be hard to figure out how to connect with your stepchild, and sometimes that just doesn’t happen. A woman on Reddit said that she had tried for years to get close to her stepson but still couldn’t. Because of this, she decided not to be a grandparent to his kids, which shows how hard and complicated it can be for blended families.

The stepmother and her stepson never talked to each other.

It’s hard to say because I’m a stepmother to 5 great kids. Their oldest child was only 9 years old when I became their stepmother. Over time, I adopted all of them except Nick. Nick was clear from the start that he didn’t want me to be his mother, and I was fine with that. When Nick turned 18, though, it was clear he didn’t care about me at all.

I wasn’t asked to his wedding or any of the holidays he hosted. The last straw was when he said he would only come to my house for Christmas if I wasn’t there. Since then, we haven’t talked much. Nick also made things hard between himself and his siblings. He has two daughters now, and he called me out of the blue. It caught me off guard when we began to talk.

He kept asking me to watch his kids on Sundays and be their grandparent after a while because he wasn’t getting any help from anyone else. I told him straight out that he burned down the village where he planned to raise his kids, so that village no longer exists. He didn’t like it, called me a jerk, and then hung up. My husband isn’t sure what to do, but he let me make the choice because I’ll be taking care of the kids most of the time since he travels for work a lot.

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