When two people from different social circles get together, it can be hard for their worlds to merge. Meghan was afraid that her fiancé’s less well-off family wouldn’t be able to fit at her wedding because she was about to get married. Though she meant to help, the choice she made made things worse. She wrote to us and asked for help.
The letter from Meghan:
“My fiancé’s family is nothing like mine at all.” Please don’t get me wrong, I love them, but they are so different from the people I grew up with. Because my dad is a famous doctor, I lived a fancy life, but my fiancé Rob didn’t have much.
Our wedding is coming up soon, and important family members from my side will be there. To make sure the big day goes smoothly, I gave my fiancé’s family four rules to follow. My wife’s mother turned pale as she read them. She called the next day to say that they would not be able to go to her son’s wedding on these terms.
These were the four rules that only my fiancé’s guests were allowed to follow:
1. If possible, guests should send me pictures of the dresses and suits they’ve chosen a week before the event to make sure they’re up to par.
2. We’d rather not get any gifts at all than ones that cost less than $200.
3. Please ask your guests not to show up in their old cars. I think you should rent newer cars for the big day, and if you need help paying for them, I’m happy to do so.
4. Last but not least, a personal note to my dear mother-in-law: please don’t wear the blue satin dress you chose for the event; it might not meet the standards that are wanted. In its place, I have personally picked out a lovely dress for you that is just right for the event.
Did my rules make you feel bad? My only goal was to make my big day perfect, just the way I had imagined it since I was a child.
Yours,
Meghan”
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