Infidelity can do a lot of damage to a relationship, whether it’s through physical actions or emotional distance. A recent Reddit post told the heartbreaking story of a woman who found out her husband had said hurtful things about her, leaving her in shock and grief. She turned to the online community for comfort and advice on how to deal with this painful realization and figure out what to do next.

This is what she wrote:

“I’ve been married for 11 years and with my husband for 15 years.” Great relationship, there have been some bumps along the way, but nothing like this.

Up until a little more than a month ago, I always packed lunch for him to take to work. But then he told me that a new food stand opened up outside of his office and that he was moving his lunch there because it was better. He stopped asking me for lunch all together. In this time frame, I may have packed him five, but I’m not sure if he was taking them now.

She went on,

“The other day, my husband called. I thought he was calling during his lunch break, but it turned out he had butt-dialed me.” While he talked on the phone, I could only hear his voice at first. I was about to hang up when I heard another voice. I was interested, so I put my work call on hold and listened. He was complimenting her cooking A LOT at first, like it was any other conversation with a woman. In which case I knew he was eating lunch that a coworker had made for him. Even though I was mad, I told myself that there had to be a reason.

When I heard her say, “So tell me, was it better than your wife’s?” I lost it immediately. My husband replied, “Oh yeah, no doubt!” Of course, she does her best, but at least yours wasn’t tasteless,’ and then she laughed.

Please explain what that means. Fifteen years of cooking, and NOW he’s upset?! Not even to me, but to a coworker?! Also, she can’t be doing that innocently, right? Why did she even bring me up? That’s so strange. Anyway, I made a scene. I hung up the phone and told him not to “worry about my tasteless cooking anymore” and that from now on he “can eat from the bin.”

After that, she said,

“He said he was sorry and that he loves my food and was just trying to act cool around his coworker.” Asked why he lied about where he was getting lunch, he said that he did get it from that stand at first, but then a coworker started offering, and he didn’t want to tell me because he was afraid I would be jealous.

He’s been on the air since then. Since he told me he doesn’t like lunch or dinner, I haven’t made them for him since. I’m still mad. He told me today that he was sorry and that I shouldn’t keep punishing him that way, but I’m about to go to my parents’ house. My suitcase full of clothes is ready to go under our bed.

My dad thinks I said something stupid, but he thinks I should work it out. My mom is on my side no matter what I decide. I’m thinking about leaving for at least a few days, but I really need to know if that’s the best thing to do.

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