Being a stay-at-home mom may seem like a thing of the past in a time when women are breaking barriers and doing great things in every field. In today’s story, a woman had to deal with her boyfriend’s different ideas about what the future should hold.
She told us what happened.
I (23F) just found out I’m pregnant with my boyfriend Andrew’s (25M) child. We’ve been seeing each other for three years and things are going well. We both want children someday, but we had planned to wait until our careers were a little more stable before having them. The baby’s birth was a surprise. At first, we thought about having an abortion or adopting the baby, but in the end, we chose to keep it. I graduated from college last year and now have a job that pays well and could lead to promotions and pay raises in the future. My boyfriend is an electrician and makes a good living, so between the two of us, we should be able to keep the baby.
Andrew told me that he wanted me to be a stay-at-home mom a few days after we decided to keep our child. Because he was raised by a SAHM and loved it, he said he thought having a SAHM was better for the baby. He wanted to give our child the same life. He said that his boss agreed to give him a raise after they talked. He also said that he would be able to pay our rent, bills, groceries, and our baby’s costs with that raise and the occasional overtime. He also said he would marry me, which made me feel safer.
I have to say that when he said that, I laughed out loud. I just think it’s crazy. He might be able to afford for me to be a SAHM, but we would have to plan every penny he made. Also, I just graduated. Does he think I went to college for four years just to be a SAHM and do his laundry and cook his meals all day? What if he gets sick or dies too? Also, I’m the first person in my family to get a degree. Both of my parents went to elementary school and were immigrants. I’m proud of my education and career, and I’ve told him this, so I don’t understand why he would even think of this.
I could tell my reaction made him angry and hurt, but he didn’t argue with my choice. When I told one of my friends about this, she thought it was rude of me to laugh. Andrew offered to take care of me and my baby, but I made fun of him in response. I didn’t mean for it to turn out that way; I just couldn’t help it because his idea was so crazy and stupid. Was I wrong?
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