Some people might think this isn’t a big deal, but anyone who has ever been in a relationship with a partner who never did the housework knows how frustrating it can be. That’s when the woman in today’s story gave up.
She wrote about what happened on the web.
My husband and I both work full-time. He works at a shipyard, and I work in real estate. Together, we work about 50 to 60 hours a week. We have four kids. 13-year-old twins, 12-year-olds, and an 8-month-old. My husband gets the weekend off every week. I don’t.
From the time my kids were little, I made them do chores. The kids and I have all slacked off a lot since I had the baby and the kids are older. This includes my husband. Our child goes to daycare at 5 p.m., and when I get home, I usually find my husband on the couch with his phone and the kids in their rooms watching makeup tutorials or playing video games. In general, the house is a mess, and the only thing that bothers me is doing the dishes.
I don’t care about anything else because the rest of the house isn’t really dirty, just a mess. Many times, I’ve complained that I’m sick of having to wash all the dishes before I can cook. When I’ve lost it, I’ve acted out in mean ways, like blocking the Internet and bringing the cord to work so no one could use the Wi-Fi or watch TV, canceling family trips, being grounded, and having big fights with my husband. For a week to a month, things will be different, but then they’ll refuse to help again. Really, I’m so sick of it that I can’t even bring myself to speak out.
My husband is off on the weekends, so he and the kids were at home yesterday while I worked. They heard me telling them, “You guys, chores better be done by the time I get home.” the day before I left. I left after they said “Yes, ma’am.”
Around 4:30 pm, I texted my husband to see what everyone wanted for dinner because I had to go to the store. I went home to find that not a single dish had been washed and that there were at least 10 more dishes in the sink from when I left in the morning. This is what he said they all wanted.
Besides that, I saw that there was still a load of laundry in the washer that had not been moved to the dryer. My husband was sitting on the couch and watching YouTube. The kids have gone to play video games. Baby in her stroller.
I put the baby’s bag together and the groceries on the table, then told my husband, “Go ahead, I’m going to Applebee’s,” and left. After about 20 minutes, he calls and says, “Sorry, I washed the dishes.” “Today I was really tired.” I told him that wasn’t an excuse at all. Three of his older children have chores to do, but he couldn’t even tell them what to do.
At this point, it’s just plain lazy. “I know, I’m sorry. I’m working on it,” he said. I don’t know how to make this dish, so could you please go home?” (It’s a tough dish, but Google is free). I told him no, I was going to Applebee’s to enjoy my steak and shrimp with the baby in peace, and that he and the older kids could take care of themselves. I told him I wouldn’t let him off the hook, even if he said sorry.
While I was on the phone with him, all of his kids yelled at me and asked me to get them something from Applebee’s, which is one of our favorite places to eat. I told them no way and hung up the phone. The groceries were already put away when I got home, and it looked like they had grilled cheese and cereal for dinner. My kids and husband are still mad at me. From now on, I told them this is what would happen every time they didn’t do their chores.
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