Being a parent is challenging.

There are rules, customs, and guidelines that each person follows, but there is no one right way to raise children.

However, many Redditors had a lot to say about the woman’s decision to stop cuddling with her daughter. See why by continuing to read!

The 37-year-old mother used the ‘Am I The A*****e’ thread on Reddit to describe a recent event involving her young daughter.

The woman started her post by saying, “My daughter is very small for her age and as a result gets treated like a younger child sometimes.”

She went on, “She loves to hop in my or my [husband’s] lap and cuddle with us on the couch or in a chair,” adding that she had begun to worry that her daughter might be “too old” for that kind of affection and that maybe she was doing her daughter any harm by allowing her to carry on with it.

The 11-year-old daughter attempted to climb onto her mother’s lap and cuddle the day before the mother wrote her post. The woman remarked, “I told her to get off me and that she was too old for that.” “She became very agitated, got off of me, and shut the door in her room.”

Apparently, there was some tension at home after the incident, and the little girl was not tried to cuddle with her mother. The woman said, “She doesn’t talk to me unless she has to, and last night when I gave her a goodnight hug, she didn’t give me one back.”

Regretfully, the woman was labeled as “the a*****e” in the circumstance, and numerous individuals condemned her in the comments section for squandering important time spent together with her daughter. In other words, her story was not well received at all!

She continued, asking other Redditors if she was the one who was being a*****e. “I feel really guilty because I obviously hurt her feelings but I feel like she might be too old for sitting on my lap,” she said.

She won’t want to spend much more time cuddling with you. Maybe a year is left to you. And rather than cherishing that time, you’re wasting it,” someone remarked.

Another said, “It’s okay to show a child that something is uncomfortable for you or to guide them toward more age-appropriate behaviors.” That’s a necessary component of raising a child. However, you do need to guide them toward appropriate behavior (since they are not born knowing it); additionally, you need to reassure them that even though your relationship with them is evolving, your love for them remains constant.

They went on, “It’s understandable why she interpreted your abrupt order to “get off” as rejection. She is now utterly perplexed about what kind of physical affection is appropriate and what will make her angry.”

“I work at a nursing home,” was another comment. Every week, a 78-year-old man comes to see his 99-year-old mother. They both light up when they hold each other despite her dementia. The need for your parents’ love and affection never goes away.

If you had been the mother in this circumstance, how would you have responded? What guidance would you give her? Tell us in the comments below!