When we are in a relationship, we want to put our complete faith in the other person. This extends to financial problems, but not all people are deserving of our confidence.

When this was revealed, a woman was still dating her boyfriend. A few months later, she noticed a pattern that appeared each time they went out to dinner. Her boyfriend would always forget his credit card when they went out to a prearranged supper.

She was in a frustrating situation and wasn’t sure how to approach it. At that point, she turned to Reddit in an attempt to find some validation for her emotions or possibly a readjustment.

My boyfriend, M36, and I have been dating for nine months. His two small daughters enjoy dining out a lot. Every time we go out together, he always forgets to bring his credit card to make the payment. Obviously, since the kids were with us, I would have to pay. But to be honest, it broke me both this month and last.

My money for my second employment, which is part-time, arrived recently. I even texted him to remind him to bring his credit card, and we decided to go out together with the kids. He dismissed it with a laugh.

We had ordered dinner at the restaurant, and he let the kids order a bunch of different things, most of which cost $$$. I reminded him of his credit card before we ate to make sure he didn’t forget it. He gave me a startled look before taking a long time to go through his pockets. “I guess I forgot it in the other pair of jeans that I thought I was going to wear,” he continued, giving me a remorseful face, before asking me to pay “just this time.” I didn’t even get to sample any of the food that was on the table. Taking up my belongings, I stood up. He started to freak out and asked me where I was heading. I told him to enjoy his supper with the kids and that I wouldn’t be paying “this time AGAIN.” I then turned to go.

Later, he gave me a call and completely lost it over me. He expressed his shock that I would walk away from him and the kids in this predicament. I told him that I would no longer always pay for the kids’ and his meals! It’s not fair! He raged that he had forgotten, that I had not shown him or the kids any sympathy, and that he was forced to cancel, sending the kids home hungry since he was unable to pay straight away. After our dispute, he has been upset with me, telling me things like that he should look at how I treat the kids in particular and that I was willing to let them go hungry out of selfishness.